‘My wife, when she had the baby, she basically left business’, he said.
‘My wife never worked’, the other man responds.
‘Wouldn’t that be something, to just drop out and kick back at home’.
He stared in the distance, then turned cynical.
‘I should be able to retire by the time I am 90’.
The two men shared a look.
‘It’s our burden’, one of them said, ‘except we don’t get a hashtag’.
The above descries a scene from the series “American Crime” where two men meet each other at a charity event, watching how their wives are showing their generousity by writing out checks with multiple zeros at the end.
One of the man being particularly bitter since his business is not running as smoothly as it should.
On top of that, his wife has recently hired a nanny, without his consent, because it is harder than she thought to take care of a 5 year old.
I remember my first heartbreak.
In tears, I knocked on my friend’s door.
‘Men are pigs’, she said while holding my hand and feeding me chocolate.
And so, this became the statement to say whenever another girlfriend of mine was dumped by a man.
But whenever I ghosted a guy after one date because he didn’t look as nice as on his pictures, they’d tell me ‘Good for you! You’re worth so much more’.
This support also was expressed in major hits by strong female artists.
Which makes me think, how would the world have reacted if a group of males would sing “I don’t need a woman to make it happen” (reference: Pussycat Dolls – I don’t need a man”.
Or “Who run the world? Boys!” (reference: Beyonce – Who run the world (girls)).
Would it have been praised the same way?
Too often it is believed that men have it so much easier in this life than women.
I wonder how true that is.
At the age of 15 I was bullied for a while because I supposingly I was the only girl in class who didn’t have sex yet. Or the only one who dared to admit it publically.
But when a male classmate did that, he was litteraly tortured.
Sadly, instead of supporting him, I kept quiet and was glad that for once I was that I was not the target of bullying.
And what about the days off after a child is born?
In the Netherlands, the mother gets a couple of weeks off, but the father is entitled to only 3 days!
How is that for fair?
Some women tend to blame their caring husband for not being able to have a career after a few years of taking care of the children.
I always wonder what these women imagine.
If you honestly think that you work will be anything more than just surviving yet another day, you’re wrong.
And if you think that waking up at six and a one hour traffic jam is fun, you’re wrong too.
If you are male, would you give up your career, take care of the child and let your wife work?
Is there a need for male empowerment organisations?
Do men also need a hashtag?
How is the equality at your work place?